I learned some time back that oftentimes good news and bad news are really two sides of the same coin. In other words, good and bad news can sometimes be the exact same news–just seen in different ways.
Here is one thing I know for sure…information is just information, but whether it is “good” news or “bad” news is really dependent on how we look at it.
For example, suppose the news is…”I made less money than I wanted to this month!” Most of us will see this as bad news…something to dwell upon and worry about. However, it could also be seen as good news (I know, this is tough, go with me here–) Making less money than you want is really a sign that you need to do something differently. It is a sign that it is time to look at your current income stream(s) and change some things up. It is a chance to ask yourself–“How can I make more money?” or “How can I change things to make more money?”
Or maybe the news is…”My kids are rude and out of control!” Again, it appears to be bad news, but this can also be a sign that things need to change. There are a million books written about how to “fix” your kids, but chances are you know what could change them. They might need more time with you or better examples of how to act. Their behavior is really an opportunity for you to implement some changes in their routine or their life. This is probably trickier than the money example, but having out of control kids is also something YOU can work on to improve.
My news this week was from the doctor—I’ve gained 5 pounds this year. My doctor pointed out that my weight is up, my cholesterol is up, by BP is up and my % of body fat is up! After months of blaming my daughters for drying my jeans too long, I had to come out of denial. It wasn’t the jeans:) I do not have a weight problem, I’m lucky that way. But 5 pounds does make a difference on someone who is 5’1″ on a tall day. I spent the evening after the appointment angry. “So what if I gain a little weight?” I said to myself. But I knew I wasn’t going to be happy if this weight gaining trend continued. Losing weight isn’t hard–I know what needs to be done. Eat less, exercise more. It is quite simple. And I know if I start today, in one week’s time, I’ll feel better and my jeans will fit better. So, I’m focusing on one week out—if I change things now it will be better in one week. If I don’t, it will be the same. It is all up to ME! That is the good news, I am in charge.
The weight situation made me recall what I already know: WE are in charge! Your life is completely under your control. You can earn what you want to earn, weigh what you want to weigh, have the relationships YOU want to have and live the life YOU choose.
Here are some examples that might get you on the right track:
1.) Outline YOUR book
2.) Start YOUR blog
3.) Make a date with an important person
4.) Send a thank you note or letter to an important person
5.) Go for 4 long walks this week
6.) Check out a book from the library on a subject you want to learn about
7.) Sell 5 things on eBay that are taking up space in your house
8.) Find a chance to spend quality time with one of your kids (try a breakfast out!)
9.) Clean out one drawer in your house
10.) Call your mom (or brother or long-lost roommate)
Don’t overwhelm yourself with plans that are huge or goals that are so far out of reach that it will take forever to achieve them. Think of one or two things that you can start with where you’ll see a difference in just a week. Let me know how it goes.